Charity Chat Ups

Helloo beauties! 
Last year I went to a wedding of a friend, I actually only attended the night time of it so once I arrived everyone already knew each other and who was with who. As I got a seat at the table there was a lad sitting there, I smiled out of politeness and he returned it. I was just going to have a drink and I felt movement next to me, I looked up and the lad I'd just smiled at was now standing next to me. Okayyy...
Without asking my name he started with 'they're doing photos over there, can we get one together?' I didn't think it would be too polite to laugh and say no thanks, so instead I got my Mum to push me over to the photo booth and I proceeded to get them done, I wore bright green glasses and mystery man wore a cowboy hat. Well that's all fine and dandy, however who are you?

Half an hour after returning to the table he was still there, and I was still engaging in awkward conversation, I generally get on with people, I don't find it awkward for too long (unless I'm on a date, then I'm a bundle of nerves!) but this lad, he was just different and not in the good way. What made it worse was my whole family were watching, I kept looking at my Mum for help, I hadn't a clue what to say to him; his banter skills were lacking, I have to say. 

Finally someone came to rescue me, 'I need your wallet' the girl said to him, ermm who the hell was she? He handed over his wallet like the good little boy he was then she stalked off. When he didn't follow the girl came back over and dragged him off with her! Well Christ, I always did attract the odd ones. My sister came over to me, 'looks like you've caused an argument' she joked.

After it clicked he was here with his girlfriend I honestly wasn't too heartbroken, I was more worried about when I was going to get another drink actually. However, later that night I found out his excuse for talking to me 'she's in a wheelchair, I just wanted to make her feel like a princess for a night' (how he didn't end up with a drink over his head I don't know!). I think he needed to realise I actually am a princess, I don't need him to treat me like one for the night. 

So, this is what I call a charity chat up. It's when someone presumes that just because someone is in a wheelchair or is disabled for any reason that they're single and no one else will take interest in them. If you're a person who does this, don't. I can assure you now, I have a better looking lad texting me making me feel like a princess, and if I don't I could get one by the time you walk away, so don't worry you're little head about it darling. 

On Friday, something similar happened again. I was at yet again another family party and at the end of the night someone approached me, however this time I knew his girlfriend, I actually have her on Facebook. I didn't mention I knew about his girl and I also knew all about their holiday to Disney land last year, I waited to hear it from him! I wouldn't exactly call it flirting, and I honestly have no problem with people coming up and being friendly, that's fine. However, one thing that doesn't go down well is when you fill me in on the fact you've asked your girlfriend if you can be my boyfriend for the night and she said yes! Well mate, I'm made up she's given you the green light, I on the other hand, do not. 

I don't need nor want you to be my boyfriend for the night, unless you're a millionaire please hurry back to your real girlfriend because unlike myself, she seems to actually like you. The fact that, number one: you asked her if that was okay, is probably even more hilarious than number two: you told me you'd got okay'd by her. Has it ever occurred to you I might have actually preferred to speak to her about how she gets her contour so on point? 

Anyway, this is just my little sarcastic rant! I'd love to hear your thoughts
on charity chat ups.

10 comments :

  1. Fabulous post chick & you're quite right!
    "I wanted to make her feel like a princess for the night" goodness sakes - seriously? What makes him think another man doesn't already do this for you?
    I admire your honesty throughout this post and there is a real sense of who you are throughout which is very admirable. Stick to your guns, poppet, you're a wonderful person. And a princess! :-)

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    Charlene McElhinney
    @blogabtnothing1
    www.charlenemcelhinney.co.uk

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment chick, it really made my day!
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  2. I agree with Charlene here I really really admire your honestly with this post and there own any reason why someone shouldn't else shouldn't treat you like a princes! What a judgement man X

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  3. What is wrong with people?! *sigh*
    This is such an honest and real post, I love it! You're always a princess and you don't need anyone else to tell you that xx

    Leanne | http://www.latteleanne.com

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  4. Lovely post. Some people though! You are a princess already, just leave mate!

    Thanks for sharing
    Steph xx
    Lifestyle Blogger | www.stephsworld.com

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  5. What an idiot! I just don't understand some people!

    Em x
    www.ohfab.co.uk • lifestyle & design blog • www.etsy.com/uk/shop/ohfab

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